Pocket Truths

Pocket truths

Conversation starters that lower the temperature

Each section includes: a calm main point, alternative ways to say it, and a link to learn more (for when someone is curious instead of combative).

1) Bathroom myths

Main point: Assault is illegal everywhere. Bathroom bans don’t stop criminals — they target ordinary people trying to use the restroom safely.

Alternative ways to say it:

  • “If someone intends harm, a sign won’t stop them. Laws and enforcement do.”
  • “Safety matters — that’s why we should focus on real risk factors, not scapegoats.”
  • “Trans people are far more likely to be harassed than to harass anyone.”
2) Youth care myths

Main point: For minors, “transition” is usually social support (name, clothing, pronouns). Medical care is age-specific and carefully overseen with clinicians and parents/guardians.

Alternative ways to say it:

  • “It’s not a vending machine. It’s healthcare.”
  • “These decisions are careful and individualized — like other pediatric care.”
  • “The scary internet version collapses everything into one image. Real care is step-by-step.”
3) Sports myths

Main point: Sports policy is complex and varies by sport and level. Many governing bodies already have eligibility rules — and policy debates shouldn’t become permission to dehumanize people.

Alternative ways to say it:

  • “Fairness and inclusion both matter — that’s why rules are sport-specific.”
  • “We can talk policy without turning an entire group into a threat.”
  • “One edge case shouldn’t justify blanket discrimination everywhere.”
4) “Trans people are criminals / predators”

Main point: Trans people are far more likely to be targeted by harassment and violence than to be perpetrators. Propaganda flips victim and villain.

Alternative ways to say it:

  • “The scary story doesn’t match who is actually getting hurt.”
  • “Blaming a minority doesn’t reduce crime. Evidence-based safety does.”
  • “If we care about safety, we should protect people who are actually at risk.”
5) “It’s a trend / social contagion”

Main point: Visibility rises when stigma falls. That doesn’t mean people are being “converted.” It means fewer people are forced into silence.

Alternative ways to say it:

  • “When left-handed kids stopped being punished, the numbers ‘increased’ too.”
  • “Sometimes what looks like a spike is people finally telling the truth.”
  • “No one chooses a harder life for attention — especially in a hostile climate.”