Pocket Truths
Pocket truths
Conversation starters that lower the temperature
Each section includes: a calm main point, alternative ways to say it, and a link to learn more (for when someone is curious instead of combative).
1) Bathroom myths
Main point: Assault is illegal everywhere. Bathroom bans don’t stop criminals — they target ordinary people trying to use the restroom safely.
Alternative ways to say it:
- “If someone intends harm, a sign won’t stop them. Laws and enforcement do.”
- “Safety matters — that’s why we should focus on real risk factors, not scapegoats.”
- “Trans people are far more likely to be harassed than to harass anyone.”
2) Youth care myths
Main point: For minors, “transition” is usually social support (name, clothing, pronouns). Medical care is age-specific and carefully overseen with clinicians and parents/guardians.
Alternative ways to say it:
- “It’s not a vending machine. It’s healthcare.”
- “These decisions are careful and individualized — like other pediatric care.”
- “The scary internet version collapses everything into one image. Real care is step-by-step.”
3) Sports myths
Main point: Sports policy is complex and varies by sport and level. Many governing bodies already have eligibility rules — and policy debates shouldn’t become permission to dehumanize people.
Alternative ways to say it:
- “Fairness and inclusion both matter — that’s why rules are sport-specific.”
- “We can talk policy without turning an entire group into a threat.”
- “One edge case shouldn’t justify blanket discrimination everywhere.”
4) “Trans people are criminals / predators”
Main point: Trans people are far more likely to be targeted by harassment and violence than to be perpetrators. Propaganda flips victim and villain.
Alternative ways to say it:
- “The scary story doesn’t match who is actually getting hurt.”
- “Blaming a minority doesn’t reduce crime. Evidence-based safety does.”
- “If we care about safety, we should protect people who are actually at risk.”
5) “It’s a trend / social contagion”
Main point: Visibility rises when stigma falls. That doesn’t mean people are being “converted.” It means fewer people are forced into silence.
Alternative ways to say it:
- “When left-handed kids stopped being punished, the numbers ‘increased’ too.”
- “Sometimes what looks like a spike is people finally telling the truth.”
- “No one chooses a harder life for attention — especially in a hostile climate.”